How It Works
I’m committed to making my support more accessible - so the pricing below is a guideline, but there is flexibility on a case by case basis.
Starter Package
Six Sessions for $180
Session #1-3 = Assessment
Session #4-6 = Basic Tools
Recommended for Couples looking for a tune up and are satisfied in their relationship generally.
OR
The Works Package
Twelve Sessions for $300
Session #1-3 = Assessment
Session #4-12 = The Full Toolkit & Dialogue/Repair Process
Recommended for Couples looking for a more in depth approach to the significant challenges in their relationship.
Session Details
Session #1-3: Assessment
Session #1: The Relationship Interview
Goal: Understand the couple’s dynamics, strengths, challenges, and history.
Learn about the couple’s story, history, areas of strength, and current struggles
Explore each partner’s perspective and what brings them to coaching now.
Introduce the Gottman framework and set expectations.
Between Sessions:
• Each partner completes the Gottman Relationship Checkup (a comprehensive online questionnaire that generates a detailed report).
Session 2: Individual Sessions (One with Each Partner)
Explore each person’s personal relationship history, family background, emotional experiences, and hopes for the partnership.
Provide a private space to speak openly.
Session 3: Feedback Session
Review findings from the Relationship Checkup.
Share a strengths-based view of the relationship, along with key growth areas.
Present the treatment or coaching plan: how many sessions, what will be covered, and specific goals.
Session #4+: Working on Tools
Sample Progression (Each session usually blends reflection, skill-building, and practice):
1. Build Love Maps & Enhance Friendship
Deepen knowledge of each other’s inner worlds.
Exercises: Open-ended questions, daily rituals, love map games.
2. Build Fondness & Admiration
Strengthen positive perspective.
Practice expressing appreciation and affection.
3. Turn Toward Instead of Away
Identify and respond to bids for connection.
Increase small moments of emotional intimacy.
4. Manage Conflict: Soften Startup & Identify Triggers
Use “softened startup” language.
Begin learning to self-soothe and recognize when flooding occurs.
5. Manage Conflict: The Four Horsemen & Their Antidotes
Identify criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
Replace with gentle startup, responsibility, appreciation, and time-outs.
6. Repair & De-escalation Tools
Practice repair attempts in real-time.
Learn how to de-escalate and reconnect after disagreements.
7. Dreams Within Conflict
Explore the deeper dreams, values, and needs under gridlocked issues.
8. Create Shared Meaning
Build rituals of connection.
Define shared goals, values, and vision for the relationship.
9. Trust & Commitment
Strengthen belief in the relationship’s future.
Work on forgiveness, rebuilding trust, or commitment rituals.